We’ve all met people who, the moment they open their mouths, you can hear comparison, envy, pride, or even hatred.
It’s hard to forgive those who may have or may not have intentionally hurt us, saying things that make us feel small and unworthy. We might not understand why they do it, or why they can be so mean.
I don’t have a perfect answer for that. But what I’ve learned is this: when we feel unhappy about our own past and never resolve it, that pain doesn’t disappear. It turns into negative energy that follows us into the present and future.
I notice it in myself too. When I can’t digest the negativity inside my mind, I become miserable, and that energy comes out unconsciously through my words or actions.
I have a close friend I really care about. One day something upset him, and suddenly he started to belittle others in an unexpected way. I didn’t see him as a bad person because I know his story. He once told me how his father was abusive to the whole family, including him. That moment helped me understand where his words were coming from.
Because a real happy person is miserable to others?
It doesn’t even sound right when you say it out loud.
When we feel unworthy, unloved, or unseen, we take that pain out on others, trying to feel less powerless. But that behaviour has little to do with what we have, and everything to do with what we haven’t healed.
If we observe closely, we’ll notice that people often treat themselves the same way they treat others. The shame appears when they start to recognise in themselves the same behaviours they once showed toward others. They don’t just do it to you. They do it to themselves.
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