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In every relationship there comes a moment when we realise that the person we love simply does not enjoy the same things we do. It is easy to assume this means something is wrong, but often it is just a reflection of the different worlds we grew up in. I grew up in Taiwan, where sport was rarely treated as important. Many parents believed it was a distraction, and some even said it was a waste of time. I mention this in my book because our cultural beliefs shape how we grow, how we behave and how we interpret the world around us. My partner, however, comes from a country where sport is part of the culture and athletes are admired and well paid. Because of that, he can sit happily for hours cheering for a team while sipping a beer like many Australians born here, and I sometimes find myself struggling to understand the excitement in the same way.
The contrast shows up again in the things I love. I enjoy travel, adventure and discovering new places, yet my partner does not feel the same enthusiasm for it. For years I carried a quiet hope that one day he would suddenly say yes. Whenever I asked, “Would you like to go to the beach this weekend,” I was almost always met with a gentle but uninterested “Hmm… not really.” He was never unkind, simply honest, but I still felt the same small wave of disappointment each time. Even though I have travelled alone since I was young and enjoy my own company, I also love sharing moments with someone. I love offering a spoon of my ice cream and pointing out a beautiful view to the person beside me. Sharing joy is part of how I bond.
Eventually, I realised this repeated pattern was not about rejection. It was simply an honest reflection of our differences. Just as he does not enjoy the beach the way I do, I do not enjoy watching rugby the way he does. Neither preference is wrong. We are shaped by different experiences, and that difference is what makes relationships both challenging and interesting. Love is not about becoming the same person. It is about giving each other the space to remain ourselves.
This understanding also applies to friendships. When we ask friends to join us and they say no, it can quietly stir doubts about our worth. A little voice whispers, “Maybe they do not like me,” even when their reasons have nothing to do with us. We want to feel chosen, valued and included, so a simple no can trigger insecurities we did not realise were still there. But with time, I have learned that other people’s choices are not a measurement of who we are. Friends might be tired, busy or simply not in the mood, and their no reflects their own capacity, not our value. Not everyone will want to join everything we do, and that is completely natural. The important part is not to interpret every no as a rejection, but to keep honouring the things that make us feel alive.
So this time, instead of waiting for a different answer from my partner, I made my own plan. I am going to St Kilda Beach this weekend. I will walk along the shoreline, enjoy the sunshine, explore the cafés and take photos to share with you. It feels freeing to honour what I love without needing anyone else to enjoy it in the same way. There is a quiet confidence in giving yourself permission to go anyway, to experience joy on your own terms and to create memories that belong to you. This is not a story about choosing to be alone. It is a story about celebrating individuality, embracing differences and understanding that we do not need to be the same to love each other well. Instead of letting disappointment repeat itself, we can choose a different approach. We can honour what we love, honour what our partner and our friends love, and give each other the freedom to remain ourselves.
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2 comments
@Karen, thank you so much for sharing this. Your comment captures something so important, that even in loving, healthy relationships, we still need time alone to recharge and reconnect with ourselves.
Wanting solitude doesn’t mean something is wrong. It simply means you honour your own rhythm and energy, and that is a sign of emotional maturity, not distance.
It’s comforting to hear how you and your husband have created a life with shared interests and the freedom to be your own person. That balance is exactly what keeps relationships strong.
I’m really grateful this article resonated with you. Thank you for reading and for being part of this journey with me. 🙂🙂
Love,
Chi Chi
This truly resonates with me. Together my husband and l have full filled lives, shared with several common interests, family & each other. Yet l still sometimes need to disappear away for a few days, to recharge the batteries & find my feet, all on my own, without my husband joining me. Occasionally l get questioned about our marriage and if we are ok, which ofcourse it is. The answer for me lies in, needing to be in my own company for a while.
Fantastic article Chi Chi 🙂🙂