Ability to handle the judgement.
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Years back, I was a very sensitive person. If people judge me on something, I would turn away from this friend, and I wouldn’t want to see them ever again.
As time passed, I gradually socialised less and less because I couldn’t handle the judgment. I also believed being in this world was pointless because people were nasty.
My reaction to the judgment was to shut down entirely. I would hold that judgment repeatedly in my head, allowing it to sabotage me until I was sick and tired.
Judgement is unavoidable and necessary in this world. There are two types of judgements- healthy and unhealthy judgement. How you define them depends on your worldview.
The more we can handle all sorts of judgments, the more we see and welcome possibilities in society.
Every judgement allows us to challenge our thoughts and learn the skill to face potential problems in the future.
Now, I do not turn away from a judgment. Instead, if it is a healthy judgment, I will take it and improve.
If it is an unhealthy judgement from my point of view, I would tell myself that it is OK that I do not fit in the particular box. People’s opinions generally reflect how they think this world should be, which has nothing wrong with it, and it is totally OK as long as it does not harm anyone!
The important thing is to be aware and not allow judgment to detect our behaviour. We should train our brain muscles to become more flexible and robust enough to handle all opinions.
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