The way people treat us often reflects the standards we set and accept.
If we allow our partners or friends to treat us with disrespect and we choose to continue the relationship, generally, they are not at fault; we are the ones who allow them to treat us with the standard we set.
They're not necessarily bad people; they've often learned this behaviour from their upbringing and think it's a way to express love.
So, the question is, do we believe we deserve to be treated a certain way by our partners? If we only expect the bare minimum in our relationships, we'll end up accepting those who meet this low standard, and we may start believing that this is what a relationship should look like.
When we settle for the bare minimum, we are basically telling ourselves we're not worthy of love. This mindset often stems from our past experiences and influences our perception of what love should be.
If we consider the qualities that we believe our best friend deserves in a partner—intelligence, humour, honesty, love, and more—we set high standards.
Then why do we often think we only deserve the bare minimum from our future partner? It's important to realize that people will treat us based on the standards we set. We choose to accept them or let them go.
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