Not good-looking enough, so not worthy of love?
Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you've expressed your feelings to someone you were interested in, only to be met with a harsh rejection? You're not alone in this experience.
The moment we are rejected, we can't help but think: Maybe my external conditions are not good enough.
I've experienced that feeling of loss, and it's natural for us to question whether we need a bigger house, a better car, or a more attractive appearance to be considered up to society's standards.
It's common for women to wonder if they should have bigger breasts or look more beautiful. For men, this means a better car, a bigger house, wealth or higher status.
I watched a male friend get rejected by a woman. He assumed he had not met the external standards, so he was rejected but did not know the real reason for his rejection.
Female friends I've known for a long time rejected him not because he didn't meet some external standard but because his internal standards didn't align with her values and beliefs.
It's easy to fall into the trap of thinking that the external benchmarks of social media are a prerequisite for everyone to choose a partner. This is more like announcing to the world that there are no independent thinkers, only single thinking with black-and-white distinctions.
There are no right or wrong beliefs; being rejected does not mean we are inferior to another person who rejected us.
We often feel pressure to meet society's external standards to attract the people we like. But is this true? Do we have to conform to these external ideals to find love? When we are young, we are taught specific external standards to look for in a boyfriend or girlfriend.
As we grow older and wiser, we take on different partners. We have learned that we can build more satisfying relationships by surrounding ourselves with partners who share our values and ideas.
We need someone who will listen to us, appreciate our authentic selves, and treat us respectfully and kindly. These conditions may seem basic, but many couples lack even the most basic respect in their marriages.
When looking for a life partner, we are looking for a complete package.
What if you're rejected because of your appearance? Remember, as long as you don't default to this conclusion, you're always in control. You have the power to decide if you want to be with someone who judges you based on external factors.
A true partner brings us joy, shares our values, and respects our beliefs; appearance is not everything. It's easy to believe that our rejection of each other is due to external conditions.
However, when our core values don't align with someone's beliefs, no amount of external temptation, such as physical attractiveness or material wealth, can create a meaningful and satisfying connection.
By saying that, remember to take care of your appearance and appreciate your innate qualities. If I don't style my curls in the morning, my hair looks like a bird's nest. Love your uniqueness; trust me, you will be discovered by someone who truly appreciates you.
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