I blamed my partner for not dancing well.
Last night, we attended the dance class. My partner and I are both beginners at dancing. It was a challenge when two blind people tried to lead each other.
It was a mess.
Researchers say that blaming is one way to offload discomfort and pain.
I was doing that. I blamed my partner for not leading me well when I couldn't remember the steps, and I believed he was the reason I couldn't dance well.
I felt frustrated that I couldn't dance well. Blaming made me feel better about my frustration, and I didn't have to hold myself accountable for remembering the steps.
Blaming gives us a sense of control, but the moment we blame another person for an unwanted situation, we worsen the situation. We disconnect from another person when it could be the moment of letting another person know: Hey, I am only a beginner like you; we can work together and get through this!
Showing vulnerability is an excellent way of connecting.
We can blame the environment, family, and weather for many things. Until the day we can no longer hide from the truth that we don't want to hold ourselves accountable for our behaviours and decisions. We are forced to become adults and take full responsibility.
Stop the blame and take action today to change the things we don't like in life; it is never too late. I am going to study my dance instead of blaming my dance partner.