Over the last few years, I have been sharing my stories on personal social media, some of which can be personal and controversial.
Since I started in the coaching business to help people like my mum who experience domestic violence to increase work performance and productivity, I sometimes shared controversial and difficult-to-discuss topics with the people I have met, as I gained perspectives from discussing them with people with different experiences.
Most importantly, my mission is to help people to have confidence in themselves and be able to get out of abusive relationships and build the life they want.
There is undoubtedly a risk that people will resist certain subjects.
Initially, it was hard even to discuss it, but I then realised we must allow and be prepared for reactivities from people. Otherwise, we will experience setbacks and give up very quickly.
I want to clarify the idea of preparing for setbacks. Sometimes, we can imagine too many scenarios before doing anything. Before taking action, we have already run through all the possible scenarios in our minds for a few months.
The scenarios could have been so scary that we decided not to do them. This is not an ideal method of preparing for setbacks; it is called procrastination.
Our brain is creative and always looking for something to worry about because it likes certainty and knowing what we think is right. Research shows that when one worry is resolved, our brain will come up with another one. It is in its survivor mode all the time.
We need to know that we can handle whatever happens. Generally, the worst that can happen is not that life-threatening.
Being challenged is a necessary process for people to understand and discover an unfamiliar area. We are now in a modern society where we have freedom of speech as long as it does not harm anyone.
The conclusion is if we don’t want to be challenged or judged, then do nothing.
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