Yesterday, I made a mistake in my article. I rushed to publish it, and an error slipped through. Despite this, I noticed that readers still appreciated and liked the post. By the way, the article has been updated.
This reminded me of a casual conversation I once had with a supplier. To protect the privacy of others, I’ve adjusted some of the details in this story. Please know that I value open and honest conversations, and my intent is never to breach trust or confidence, but to share insights that could help others in similar situations. The essence of the conversation, however, remains the same.
She told me how she was always busy doing everything for everyone. But after undergoing surgery, she found herself unable to do much and felt frustrated. As we talked, I could hear the frustration in her voice, perhaps coming from a deeper fear that people might no longer value her if she could not do things for them.
I told her: "If people truly love you, they will still love you even if you cannot give them everything they ask for."
For some of us, especially those who are used to constantly giving, it becomes a habit, almost an identity. Over time, we may forget about ourselves and start to believe that if we stop giving, even temporarily, we will lose the love and appreciation of others. We might even equate love with how much we can do or offer.
Then, another challenge begins: learning to say no. For many, saying no feels like letting people down or risking rejection. But the truth is, saying no does not mean we care less about others. It means we are setting boundaries and taking care of ourselves.
If someone truly loves you, their love will not disappear just because you make a mistake, say no, or cannot meet their expectations all the time. Love is not a transaction. It is not something you have to earn. Real love is freely given and rooted in who you are, not in what you do.
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